How would you rate your confidence level?
High? Low? In the middle?
So many suffer from low confidence. It is such a normal characteristic that many struggle with.
Let’s look at the definition for a moment:
con·fi·dence a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities
Such a simple definition yet so hard to achieve for many people, especially teenagers.
Learning how to build your confidence takes daily attention, personal awareness, taking action, and commitment. Without these things, your confidence will be tested by life events and people who don’t want to see your self-esteem grow in a positive direction. Through education, increased personal awareness and accountability, and applying practical methods of learning to your life, you can learn to build confidence that will help you achieve more, be happier with the results of your life, and have an inner peace that helps you see life clearly.
Here are 20 quick and practical methods that can help you increase your self-confidence:
- Think about someone who is confident. Act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behavior. What works for them can work for you.
- Smile a lot more. A real genuine smile! Smile when you walk down the street, when you meet people and when you walk by people in the store. It will generally help you be happier even if you’re not feeling that way.
- Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time. Treat failure as feedback instead of an opportunity to hold yourself back.
- Buy yourself some new clothes, get your hair done, treat yourself to something new. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost.
- Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it.
- Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities at every chance you get. And because you’re good at it, you’ll enjoy it, and have more confidence.
- Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time. Most likely all of these weaknesses are skills you can build over time.
- Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Saying no is important at times. Reflect on past times you wish you would have said “no” and visualize how you would do it differently the next time.
- Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.
- Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.
- Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in the grand scheme of things. A lot of the time it isn’t. Many people in life major in minor things!
- Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem. Change the way you think.
- List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.
- At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.
- Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out?
- Every morning when you’re in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so.
- Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though you’ve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change you body language
- Emotion is created by motion. As in 17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body – it makes you feel better and more confident.
- Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are.
- And finally – You only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years time – will what I am worrying about really matter?
These practical methods can help you learn to build self-confidence and help eliminate the negative people, thoughts, and events that happen regularly in your life. Learning to adopt healthy and positive tools and methods helps you quickly develop an approach to life of confidence and courage.
Through my coaching, I help teens and parents develop and adopt social and emotional skills by using modeling, reflection, and critical thinking strategies and tools that follow leadership principles. I use action driven learning and coaching challenges to reinforce social awareness, personal awareness, relationship building, responsible decision making, and personal accountability. Through motivational speaking, group coaching, one on one sessions, clients learn to acquire these necessary social and emotional skills in life.
If you know of someone that has low self-confidence, pass this article along to them.
Also, here is a link to more services that can help them grow a positive, powerful mindset that will help them live life without fear and without barriers.